This was originally posted in 2012... Similar situations have happened recently so I am re-posting.
BETTY- I don't know and have stopped trying to understand ignorant,retarded
racist, closed minded ,stupid ass people----Im threw!
19 hours ago · Like ·
SUE- F***tard ....that's all I got.
19 hours ago - Like -
Where to even begin.
These ladies were commenting on a YouTube video exposing the use of the
word "coon ass" in reference to
(names have been changed to protect
If it wasn't so sad I would be on the floor laughing
at the irony......
A slur is a slur is a slur...... all of them hurt. Words matter.
My friend Jane tried to educate and even asked them to
check out the R word campaign.It didn't go over well. Their posts were removed but Jane ended up
feeling bad for saying something.
Jane did this for me. She understands.
But now she really understands.
I can not count how many times this has
happened to me and other advocates of people with disabilities.
We feel bad for
making the offender feel bad.
Do you think this happens to
Timothy Shriver? He's at a dinner party and somebody cracks a joke using the
word. We all know he runs into many of the popular offenders. Wonder what he
does? Wonder if they ever bring it up to him? Cause I gotta be honest sometimes
you just are stung by it, sometimes you don't want to be the boat rocker.
Sometimes you just want to enjoy a drink or a meal without having to tell
someone why the word Retard, Retarded, F***tard, Mongoloid is disgusting.
Sometimes you get sick of referencing other slurs like Nigger, Fag, Coon Ass,and
Chink just so people will get it.
Sometimes you just want people to have
Story time with Mama...
Once in the 70's I went to
visit my Great Aunt in Natchez MS, who was then in her late 80's. She had a
maid helping her and my Auntie got mad about something the maid didn't do the
way she wanted. I remember my Mom trying to calm my Auntie and my Auntie started
yelling about how the Nigger was doing it wrong.My Auntie couldn't hear so she yelled everything really loud. It was horrible. We all rushed
to apologize to the maid and she was so graceful and assured us she was ok. But
here it is decades later and I remember those words. How they made me feel ashamed, how bad it hurt me to see the maids eyes, to give her a hug knowing it was not enough.
Back to Facebook.
a short and respectful attempt to educate, these women were so angry at a slur, at injustice, they
couldn't see their own. Language affects perception. Perception affects equality.
These are the people I want on my side, like I
am on theirs. They talk tough, take no crap and speak out about injustice.
But they don't see disability.
Not in their world.
Not on their agenda.
Disability does not descriminate. People do.
Disability is silent especially when you aren't listening.
In so many ways.
It comes out in all
I feel bad for these women, I know what it is like to want to
hurt others when you experience such injustice based in language. And I also know what
it is like to see the big picture of the damage that language can do. I saw this damage today and I've seen it for years,
for decades. I felt this damage today and I've felt it for years, for decades. Just like them.
Words hurt or heal.